Open To Love

A Beloved recently said: “How do you put up with me? I feel like all I ever do is complain.” I simply said: “I love you.” No fixing. Just loving.

It is a part of the life journey of nearly everyone I’ve met. We just get to that point in the road and – it’s hard. Like, it’s harder than anything we’ve ever known or imagined. And, just as we feel we are rounding the bend on that hard bit, another boulder – bigger, dirtier, heavier, more incomprehensible appears.

And we think: “I can’t. THIS thing, I can’t do. No more. No way.”

I’ve been there. I was met with lots of well-meaning “love & light” people who helped me feel even worse because I just couldn’t meet their positivity. And, I do not “think” or “believe” that love is always the right answer. By experience, I know it is. Love can take on many different colors, shapes, tones, and volumes. And – it is always the right answer.

You see, I began to meet people who had done the shadow work. They knew what it was to be with down & dirty & GINORMOUS boulders of difficulties. And they sat near me with their candles and their love – sometimes they even blew out their candles to join me in the dark and the dirt. It was always well and truly my journey – but I wasn’t alone.

And! I was able to feel all the feels. To embrace the shadow, the dark, the dirty, the heavy, the difficult. As I sat with my difficulties, I was surrounded by people who said: We see your down, your dirty, your sad, your everything. And, we love you. And again, we love you. And again: we love you.

This is how I know that releasing trapped emotions happens with love. You see, there was no judgement. There was no right or wrong. There was only love and honor of my life’s journey.

This is the love that is spacious enough to allow someone to be in their own complaint, to love beyond measure and onto the next boulder, and all the way through to the next clear path.

Love is always the right answer - even (ESPECIALLY) loving the shadow.