Feeling Stuck? Remember Amber Rose
Meet Amber Rose
Amber is a quiet, reserved and very small for a “senior” cat, she is nearly 20 human years old now…. She cuddles with her human “momma” almost exclusively. She sits so still most of the time, you could almost mistake her for a statue. But she isn’t one! She’s just very contained and knows exactly what is safe for her to do and when to go exploring. As she has become more confident over the years, she has come out more and more. She doesn’t like big or loud noises or rough housing so now that her home has quieted down due to life changes, she comes out a bit more.
Remember, Amber knows exactly what she wants and when to ask for it so if she goes for something, she really wanted it…. And, one day, it seems she really wanted to investigate the newly-emptied glass cabinet in the family room. What she didn’t count on was, in her stealth, not being noticed and having the doors to the cabinet closed on her. Now… she’s stuck.
This made me think of trapped emotions. While it is not always the case, very often we humans seek out a certain experience: a new relationship, a job, a sensation, an experience, a class on some fabulous topic; and when we get it – it’s not what we were hoping for…and we feel – well. I’ll speak for myself – I feel stuck. Like… “well, I said it’s what I wanted so I need to stick with it.”
And sometimes, that’s the right thing to do. Sometimes my persistence serves me well.
And… Sometimes, it just leaves me feeling stuck. Does any of this sound familiar?
✴️ I wanted a life partner and they wound up being violent.
✴️ I wanted a fabulous, high-paying job and it wound up being soul-sucking.
✴️ I wanted to join in the party and I realized I am allergic to this thing I’ve eaten or drunk.
BUT! my judgy voice says:
it’s what I wanted so I need to stick with it. I can’t possibly look at my choices as an iterative learning process. I made the choice. I’m “of age”. I made my bed so now I need to lie in it.
And sometimes, I hear myself telling myself these things and think: “That’s a lie. I don’t have to stay in this abusive pattern.” But I stay in it anyway. Why? All reason tells me I needn’t stay. But I am still stuck.
🚧 This can be a sign of trapped emotions.
The old saying that “e-motions” are “energy in motion” is very true – as long as they stay in motion. When they become trapped by some sort of experience or trauma, they prevent the energy from BEING in motion.
Releasing trapped emotions can bring better physical, emotional, spiritual, and financial health. Here are a few examples of what I have seen:
➻ people struggling for years to get pregnant and nothing working, after a few sessions their doctor says, “I don’t know why this round of IVF worked but…. Congratulations!”
➻ cats hiding away from everyone and being largely anti-social, after a few sessions walking up to visitors to greet them
➻ people miserable in a job for years, after a few sessions finding a way to transition out and on to an enjoyable way to earn a living
➻ people in long-term estrangement from family, after a few sessions able to meet with family and feeling loved, loving, and accepted
➻ teenagers with disordered eating, after multiple sessions with the afflicted one and each key family member, able to commit to a healthier lifestyle, free from the self-harming choices of the disease
As I contemplate this image of Amber stuck (or trapped) in the glass cabinet (rest assured she is well and happy and was released from the cabinet the moment after the photo was taken), I am reminded that the Emotion Code process can also release me from the glass cabinet in which I find myself from time to time. And – just as easily as Amber came out of this cabinet when she was ready, we can come out of being “stuck”. While our bodies need time to adjust to the freedom, it still can happen within moments or within days depending on the complexity of the trapped emotion(s).
So, when I hear myself say: I need to stick with this (experience, person, thing, job) because I said I wanted it… I think of Amber. In the glass cabinet. She wanted to explore – and, through no “wrong” choice, she got trapped. It wasn’t “wrong” to want to research the insides of the cabinet. And I turn to Emotion Code and meditation and loving people for release.